We are all searching for love and connection. Without connection, we can become miserable and dissatisfied.
In this search, many lose sight of what they want or become discouraged trying to find their way. Some symptoms of disconnection may include: lashing out or pushing away the very people you want to be closest with, feeling stuck in an unsatisfying career, acting just like your parents despite all attempts not to, poor self care, making harmful or neglectful choices, being mean to yourself rather than kind, feeling stressed all the time, having trouble sleeping, trouble eating or digesting, or experiencing chronic physical pain. If you would like to find your way back to connection, call me to see how I can help you, 707-331-5246.
Individual Therapy and Counseling
Whether you are coming to therapy or counseling for help with specific challenges or you are wanting to deepen into your personal growth process, I will strive to meet you where you are and create an open, trusting and collaborative relationship from which to embark on our work together.
An integral part of therapy is learning to grow towards healthy relationships, which begins with the relationship with one’s Self. Moving from a secure sense of self provides a vast resource for navigating life’s many difficulties and healing from past wounding. I will work with you to build awareness of your present moment experience while cultivating empathy, acceptance and understanding for whatever arises. Thus, you can begin to reintegrate disowned aspects of your Self and move towards wholeness. I have witnessed that as people learn to deeply care for and tend to their Self, this will ripple into the rest of their life, allowing greater experiences of connection with others, as well as providing a compass for the many choices in life that will ultimately lead to continued nurturing and support and greater satisfaction and joy.
Couple’s Therapy and Counseling
When people come together in an intimate partnership they are often coming from two completely different family cultures with different values and needs, different ways of expressing love and emotions, and different styles of communication. This can lead to layers of hurt and misunderstanding. Furthermore, it is often within the love relationship that the most challenging aspects of our personalities surface. I believe that this is because these difficult parts only feel safe to emerge with the person with whom we are closest.
People come into relationships in order to grow and heal, though often they lack the tools to do so effectively and instead find themselves in a cycle of emotional pain, withdrawal, or reactivity. I work collaboratively and empathically with couples to build the tools they need in order to find their way back to deep connection, support and love.
Many blessings on your journey.
If you are interested to hear more about how I may be able to help you, please call 707-331-5246 to schedule your free 1/2 hour consultation.
Moving Toward
Connection
In session I work actively to build resilience, helping clients to develop and cultivate:
Self Esteem
Communication Skills
Empathy
Assertion
Decision Making Skills
Kindness towards the Self
Emotional Regulation
Healthy Boundaries
Patience
Insight
Awareness
Self Care
Self Reflection
Confidence
Acceptance
Positive Self Image
Self Advocacy
Creativity
Healthy Sexuality
Purpose
Understanding of Values
Clarity
Grounding
Positive Relationships
Supportive Spirituality
I have supported clients towards growth and wholeness who are having difficulty with:
Childhood Trauma
Recent Trauma
Stress
Low Self Esteem
Self Worth Issues
Hopelessness
Depression
Anxiety
Grief
Anger
Confusion
Overwhelm
Emotional Outbursts
Difficulty Making Decisions
Conflict in Relationships Dissatisfaction
GBLTQQI Issues
Parenting Issues
Chronic Pain
Adoption Issues
Addiction Issues
Perfectionism
Harmful Habits
Poor Self Care
Existential Anxiety
Lani Lee, MFT
Individual and Couple Psychotherapy
Licence# LMFT51375 707-331-5246 Santa Rosa, CA